Amazing Over 50’s – Cara Achterberg

Once again I am excited to introduce another guest to my series:

Amazing over 50’s

I am inviting and featuring ‘Mid-lifers’ who are enjoying life over 50 and who are happy to shout out about great health, fitness, lifestyles, work or their achievements etc, but more importantly who are embracing this time of their lives with pride and open arms.

This month I’m happy to introduce Cara Achterberg as my sixteenth guest.  Cara is an author and blogger, but she is also a heroine when it comes to fostering dogs in need.

Welcome to Loving The Fifty Something, Cara

Can I ask you to tell us a little about yourself?

Cara Sue Achterberg with pupI am an author, blogger and rescue dog foster mom who lives on a hillside farm in Pennsylvania with my husband and my youngest son who graduates high school next year and will likely abandon the nest for higher education and a more exciting life just like his two siblings before him. Which means that I’m in the process of reimagining my life somewhere beyond this hollow where we’ve lived for nearly twenty years.

I am an irrepressible optimist, a lifelong student and teacher, and happiest hiking in the woods with a dog or sitting on the back of a horse. I believe, just like Tim McGraw sings, “most people are good,” and love the blogging community for the opportunities to connect with people all over the world. So, Sam, thanks so much for this chance to meet your readers!

My pleasure, Cara!  Do you remember what turning 50 meant to you and how you feel now in relation?

Actually, I can’t remember turning fifty on the day I turned fifty because I was determined it would be just another day. I looked up the date in my journal thinking I must have written something profound and soul-searching, but there was no entry. The day after, I wrote, “I thought turning fifty would feel different. It doesn’t,” and then moved on to my frustration with the near constant rain that spring and how it was stifling my running efforts.

I’m fifty-three now, and honestly, it still comes as a surprise. I don’t feel fifty-three. Okay, that’s not completely true. Sometimes when I crawl around on my knees playing with the dogs, the getting-up is ugly and every now and again I stand up too quickly and get light-headed. But both of those complaints likely have more to do with how much wine I had with dinner and my eating habits, than my age.

First puppies with Cara outside

Is fifty old? That’s certainly relative. I know that life has only gotten better with age and somewhere around that fifty line, I stopped being so annoyed by people and became more curious. I’m softer now, not physically (okay maybe a little), but emotionally; I’m more forgiving. Issues and incidents that used to fire up my fury, now instead cause me to wonder about the motives and origins and just how small a life might be to unleash that much anger towards another human being, particularly one you don’t know.

I can totally relate to that, Cara.  Do you like to stay fit and healthy?  If so how? 

I’m a firm believer in move-it-or-lose-it so my days are very physical. I walk the dogs and55959657_2293637637584436_8359043420819292160_o haul hay and spend hours in my gardens, and even when I’m chained to my laptop by a deadline, I spend some of that time sitting on my yoga ball (occasionally bouncing across the room and back if I’m stuck) or standing at the counter. I may even take the laptop outside for a bit. I look for excuses to move and having two of my own dogs and usually at least two (but often more) foster dogs in the house at a time gives me plenty of them.

I’ve only recently realized that I’m an adult and can eat what I want. Having spent the last few decades obsessing over what I ate and what my children ate, I’ve begun trying to listen to my body and feeding it what it asks for. Bananas with peanut butter for lunch instead of my regular salad? Maybe I’m short on potassium. I’ve always abhorred processed or fast food, still do, but often now I have my own form of ‘fast food’ dinner—cheese and crackers, fruit and wine. I’m not cooking as much and have come to believe that cereal or popcorn makes a perfectly fine meal.

The one real effort and concession I’ve made to age is trying to drink more water. I’m startled by the wrinkles that look back at me in the mirror and know that consuming more water will make the biggest difference, so I challenge myself to drink more and carry water with me everywhere in a reusable cup/straw. (I’ve a terrible habit of leaving them everywhere, but they usually find their way back to me.)

What are the things you are most proud of achieving after turning 50?

cara with book at ParnassusI think I’m most proud of laying down my need to control my life. Somehow years spent with horses and children didn’t teach me I’m not in charge, but fostering dogs has. In the last few years I’ve fostered over one hundred dogs for an all-breed rescue. It has provided great purpose and joy, but plenty of heartache and many, many tears. I’ve learned that all you can do is the best you can do and after that you have to practice acceptance and learn from the experience.

I’m proud of my most recent book, Another Good Dog: One Family and Fifty Foster Dogs. It’s a memoir (my other books are novels), so it required more than a little baring of the soul for all to see. I am humbled that it has touched hearts and inspired people to join in our quest to rescue. 

I do admire you, Cara.  I love to follow you and am blown away by the work you do for rescue dogs and emotionally, what it must take out of you.  Are there any messages or advice you’d like to give to people who are about to turn 50?

Life only gets better. It truly does. Yes, there are trade offs, you have to accept the reality of wrinkles and tired feet, but you will experience more freedom and more peace in your fifties than you have in your lifetime. Revel in that and don’t get hung up on a number. It’s only that—a number.

You’re so right Cara!!  Thank you again, for being another great guest on my ‘Amazing over 50’s’ series.  And a rescue dog heroine! 😊

Here are Cara’s links if you’d like to read more about her books and follow her dog fostering journey;

Blog: CaraWrites.com

Cara’s Facebook Page

Twitter 

And Instagram

Take a look at Cara’s books here

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 ‘Amazing Over 50’s’ 

If you’ve enjoyed reading about Cara, then you may want to catch up with my previous fifteen ‘Inspirational Over 50’s’ guests in this series by clicking Here.

If you’re loving your ‘Mid Life’ and feel you’d like to share your ‘over 50’s’ enthusiasm then why not get in touch to be a guest on my ‘Amazing over 50’s’ series, please contact me Here and help me ‘Shout Out for the over 50’s’ 🙂

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Me with Crazy Rose (left) and our beautiful, (late, but always remembered) Jenna 💕

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16 thoughts on “Amazing Over 50’s – Cara Achterberg

  1. Totally agree Cara regarding use it or lose it. I too enjoy forest walks with a four legged friend. Keep up your wonderful work with rescues. Our NZ version is called the S.P.C.A (Society of the Protection and Care of Animals).

    1. I don’t get to travel very much because of the farm/dogs, but right now I am traveling in Tennessee in the mountains visiting rural animal shelters (still called ‘dog pounds’ down here!). Leaving home for a while is wonderful for the personal reset button!

  2. What a fabulous interview with Cara! She said so much that resonates with me! I have kept journals for years on and off but cannot recall how I felt when I actually turned fifty, so plan to look back and see if I recorded anything. I too have learnt that all you can do is your best, and your best is good enough! And, age really is just a number, and it’s great advice not to get hung up on that number. You really are as young as you feel or as old as you feel! Cara’s attitude to life is so down to earth, you cannot help but warm to her. As someone who loves dogs and horses, I am drawn to a kindred spirit! I agree that you come to a place of acceptance or maybe self acceptance! I love your series of sharing the life experiences of other over fifties! So inspirational and gives so much encouragement! Thank you Sam!

    1. Liola, thank you! What a wonderful comment. I’m so pleased you like this series. I’m so proud that there are so many inspirational over 50’s out there. Maybe you should be a guest?? 😊

    2. Liola – you DO sound like a kindred spirit! So grateful for your affirmation – many times in this world I wonder if I am out of step, thanks for letting me know there’s at least one other walking the same road. Blessings on you! Hope you’ll stay in touch.

  3. Hi Cara, so nice to meet you on Sam’s blog! How wonderful you’ve devoted your life to rescuing dogs and great to read how you stay fit by walking the dogs and taking care of your home and horses. I believe 50 (age) is just a number, too, but I commemorated my 50th b-day in December by walking at my graduation to receive my masters degree. I’ll be 60 this December and like you, I don’t feel that age. So different are we than our grandparents at the same age! I looked at your website and saw your TV spot promoting your book! Congrats! I have a high school friend in Southern California who rescues dogs and I admire folks like her and yourself who make the world better for the dogs!

    1. Thank you for reading Terri & such a great comment. Wow, received your masters at fifty, such an accomplishment! Like you, I admire Cara so much for what she does & angels like her 😊

  4. Another amazing post, it’s great to meet Cara here! Thanks Sam for introducing Cara and her story to us. I love the comment that it only gets better and I totally agree with that!

    1. Thanks for reading Debbie. Cara’s fabulous isn’t she? And yes ‘it does only get better’ 😀x

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